What is it about us? We love to focus on failure, to point out what went wrong, to rejoice in misfortune – but why?
Have you ever listened to a football crowd in this country? The venom with which some comments are made to players is disturbing. Even at school games the ‘helpful’ feedback from coaches and parents is enough to put some kids off for life. Why can’t we be more supportive?
At a recent rugby game in Australia I didn’t hear one single negative comment directed at the home team. (Plenty at the opposition mind you). When someone made a mistake, and there were plenty, all they got was support and encouragement from the supporters – the clue is in the name.
I remember my kids learning to walk. Plenty of mistakes there. When they fell over though I don’t remember once ridiculing them or shouting abuse. Of course not, it would be ridiculous. So when does it change? When does it become alright to stop being supportive and encouraging and start pointing out mistakes and being critical?
By now you are probably thinking, with kids – especially our own - we should always support and encourage them. Absolutely.
Why? Because we know it makes sense. So, this being the case, why doesn’t a similar logic apply in every walk of life?
